Inter-cultural Relationship Tips- Never Take Each Other For Granted

Inter-cultural Relationship Tips- Never Take Each Other For Granted

Just in case you are tempted to presume or wrongly assume now that you are married together (maybe for some few years) you can attempt to act independently of your spouse, you will be wrong to do so in a sense.

One fast way to damage the trust reposed in you by your spouse (whether it is your husband or it is your wife, does not matter).

All your decisions, thoughts and actions must be weighed in the light of the following considerations-
Am i doing right by taking this step?

Should my partner/spouse get to know of it, will she (he) be pleased and/or impressed?

Will my decision or involvement in this very thing help our bond and commitment together to grow strong or will it set our relationship ad the progress made so far a step or two backwards?

Thee are many areas where you can be caught on a wrong footing but being mindful of such traps and making every effort not to fall victim often helps most times.

Some areas to be on your guard include:
1. Opposite sex.
2. Money.
3. Use of your time.
4. Friends you keep.
5. Habits, etc.

Often times, it is best to simply intimate your partner of any developments or things which you consider is better shared between both of you. This is in contrast to allowing him (her) to find out through a third party and the situation gets messy.

Are you seeking to build a viral, dynamic, happy, peaceful, satisfying, rewarding and fulfilling relationship or marriage with your spouse, then you must learn to share, communicate and connect in many ways more than the ordinary.

Respect is reciprocal and putting your husband or wife's feelings about some issues before you act is wisdom indeed. In the long run, it will amaze you how responsibly mature both of you are in your loving relationship. Things can only get better.

Inter-cultural relationship tips- working together, enjoying peace, witnessing progresss

Inter-cultural relationship tips- working together, enjoying peace, witnessing progresss

the beauty to having your spouse by your side is evident in times when you need the support and assistance from someone else; especially when you need to perform a task or deliver on a deadline. imagine the tremendous value your partner brings or introduces to the entire process.

couples who are yet struggling with working together or getting their partners involved in what they do are indeed missing out on quite a lot of benefits.

your husband or wife understands you, your strengths and weaknesses, your turn-ons and turn-offs, your endurance limits and the safe thresholds that get you performing at peak potential. this knowledge in itself is a blessing and a very important ingredient you ought not to despise or overlook.

you also get to enjoy some level of peace within and inside your mind. a word of praise or commendation or even that of encouragement does more to your psyche than the greatest tonics and elixirs you can think of.

best of all, nothing compares to achieving together as couples. one thing is both of you get to celeberate together.

your bond grows stronger and your relationship is given the opportunity to deepen.

in all, you ought to try partnering with your husband or wife in projects and assignments once in a while and get to experience the goodness your partner brings along.

work together, enjoy peace and witness progress in whatever endeavor you undertake today, it makes it a lot less work and more fun.

Intercultural Relationship Tips & Help- A Sneak Peek View Into Reasons Your In-Laws May Not Accept You

Intercultural Relationship Tips & Help- A Sneak Peek View Into Reasons Your In-Laws May Not Like or Accept You

Friend, is it true that those who are ‘supposed’ to be your in-laws (at present or in the future) do not like your face, accept you or even desire to have anything whatsoever do you with the likes of you? Well, do not despair by losing hope or giving up in defeat; something can still be done nonetheless.

In this article, we shall take time to consider a few reasons or excuses why there is so much hostility or biases against the fact that you are in love with their son/daughter brother/sister.

To get started right away, can you categorically state any bias your 'future or present in-laws’ may have against your people, race, culture or language?

Or is it anything that concerns just you in particular?

It might not be quite obvious that whatever you may have perceived as resentment or disapproval of your connection with your lover at present (whether it is from his/her family members, relatives, ‘good’ neighbors, etc) may be closely related to your background.

You need to be aware that people in general no matter how remote it might appear oftentimes relate to or react towards any past event, happenings or encounters had with your kind/type of people.

Here are some suggestions to consider:

1. Can you remember any sad experience, bad treatment or ugly encounter that happened and someone from your background featured prominently?

2. Could the hostility against you be as a result of lack of trust especially when it has to do with unpleasant historical stories shared or handed down from one generation to the other about your race, people, culture or language?

3. Do you realize that oftentimes the fear from any perceived limitation or inability to effectively communicate and equally relate with you might be responsible considering the fact that you are from a different culture.

4. Lies, fables and myths as to whether you would make a better husband/lover or a respectful and well behaved wife/spouse at times may make for the perceived rejection.

5. Statistics of crime records, participation in neighborhood gangs, terrorism, divorces, broken marriages, failed relationships, etc known to involve your people may strongly contribute to your ‘in-laws’ not accepting you in their midst.

6. Literacy level, personal cleanliness and hygiene, gender tolerance and social disposition and political inclinations at times also serve as criteria for acceptance.

7. Known norms and values, ideologies and practices, religion, beliefs and lifestyles, etc about your people or culture equally count in things such as maintaining a relationship with your lover (boyfriend or girlfriend).

There are others more but these have been mentioned to give you the impetus that you still need to work.

You will do well (where this is allowable) to find out (preferably from your boyfriend or girlfriend) reasons or excuses put forward by his/her people for not appreciating the fact that both of you are involved in a relationship together.

Inter-Cultural Relationship Tips-How healthy is Your Relationship?

How healthy is Your Relationship when there are constant Fights, Quarrels and Misunderstandings?

The big question is asking to know how healthy your relationship is at present when there are constant fights, quarrels and misunderstandings between both of you that profess to be in love with one another.  These things eventually degenerate into conflicts that are known to do damage to the love you share and the peace you enjoy as lovers, dates, partners and spouses?

What happens to the way you function or operate, can you perform at peak potentials? Can you give your best?

It is a funny world indeed when and where lovers find something (which is nothing really when it is evaluated) to quarrel about or disagree over out of the need to simply just do it. As it is often stated, there is ‘unity in diversity’.

This kind only leads to more laughs, happy cheer and intimate bonding between the both of you as lovebirds.

...However, for the majority it is a common trend to fight, quarrel and conflict together in their relationships.

One thing most people who are tired and are willing to change a few things around in their relationship will readily submit and agree to is in the fact that conflicts sap useful strength, kills initiatives and stagnates the relationship.

Simply stated, no one derives joy or satisfaction from the knowledge and experience that he/she fought with his/her date, lover, partner or spouse. Otherwise, such an individual desperately needs a medical checkup (psychiatrist help perhaps).

As long as fights, quarrels and misunderstandings are allowed to linger and/or fester in your relationship, there is no meaningful progress that can be recorded.

A worst case scenario is sweeping an unresolved fight or conflict under the carpet and pretending all is well after all.

Both of you have simply helped in creating rifts and cracks in the walls of your ‘supposed’ loving relationship; in actual fact, you are sitting on ‘a time bomb’.

Things could get quite messy when this bomb explodes thereby destroying all you have labored to build or gather over time. The only justification you have to continue on this pathway is where both of you do not take into consideration, value or regard all the sacrifices made to build and nurture your loving relationship.

The extent to which you have invested to make your relationship work, get your love to blossom and remain united as one, does it not matter? Would you rather forfeit your life’s goals and allow your ambitions to go not realized, accomplished or actualized?

Allowing constant quarrels, fights and misunderstanding leeway in your relationship will only serve to undermine your joint expectations together. 

This trend must be stopped and this ugly monster must be subjected to an untimely fate and that should be -sudden Death.

Resources known to help lovers, couples, dates and partners at this crossroad are self acceptance, effective communication, amicable conflict resolution and best of all, unconditional love.

What are you prepared to do starting from now? Friend, go and make something beautiful out of your relationship and with that special someone who means the whole world and even more to you... today.

Have a good success while you are at it. If there is anything more, ...make it worth your while.

Intercultural Relationship Help- How to Overcome Resentment or Hostility Towards You by Your In-laws?

Where there is no doubt whatsoever that you are not on the list of persons your In-laws like for a son-in-law or a daughter-in-law, you truly have work on your hands; you need to seek ways and deploy means to overcome the resentment or hostility displayed towards you.

Another option that you be left with might be to continue your love relationship without their approval, involvement, blessing or participation or worse still to end your relationship in breakup, separation or divorce.

That indeed is a tough one if you ask me?

The above mentioned option of calling it quits with your lover and going your separate ways is a last resort especially where you have been known to try or attempt peace-truce with your family-in-laws but failed.

You must realize that just about anything might be responsible for your supposed 'in-laws' not liking you.

Now, it doesn't count in your opinion whether they should be affectionately disposed towards you or not, what truly matters most is how best you can dispel any cloud of doubts surrounding your loving relationship with their son or daughter.

This is where the bone of contention lies.

In order to safely and securely proceed with your love affair together, you need to get past any strong bias or flimsy excuse against your in-laws and especially the ones you subtly cozy up with in your defense.

It serves to do you (your love life and your relationship) little good to join in the hate and resentment that is at present what appears to be in vogue- everything around you and all that you have labored for becomes stained in the process.

No matter what you choose to do or decide not to do, do not fall into the same trap and become entangled in this vice called hate.

You must make a difference.

You need to realize quickly that something somewhere is serving as a clog in the wheel of progress as far as your relationship is concerned at present. This very thing (the wrong mindset, perceived threat, baseless arguments, incorrect accusations, etc) must be addressed and equally resolved wherever possible.

You might be tempted to grow angry, get bitter or lash back at this 'injustice' but friend, the appropriate step to take would be to take your time to evaluate the biases (excuses or reasons) put forward against you and the relationship you keep with your lover, mate, partner, heartthrob, etc.

1. Do you have answers?

2. Can you find a way or device a means to effect a change in orientation or perception towards you?

3. Would a 'slight' change in lifestyle, behavior, conduct, speech, dressing, personality, etiquettes, ideology, belief or response help at all?

4. Do you presuppose that being a better, reliable, dependable, trustworthy, credit worthy, polite, outspoken, caring and loving person would prove sufficient in effecting a change in attitude towards you?

This is a crucial aspect to your love life and the loving and affectionate relationship both of you keep. Your relationship truly deserves/requires an environment where both of you can freely partner together to build it and make it work.

Distractions and all whatnots can only serve to slow the pace or even truncate the entire relationship building process where adequate care is not taken. Can you live with the realization that you did not put up ‘a fight’ to safeguard your loving relationship?

Would you rather lose your heartthrob?

It is a given that both of you need an environment where your love can bloom and where you can get to plan and work towards achieving your joint expectations and mutual goals for starting your relationship and becoming involved with one another.

Go ahead and do the needful; learn to overcome the challenges posed against your relationship and indeed take the necessary action without any further delay because you stand to reap the gains and enjoy the benefits.

It is tough enough to get along fine with your In-laws where both of you are of the same background, culture, race or ethnicity; it is a different ball game where both of you are involved in a Cross Cultural relationship. Coupled with this challenge, winning over your In-laws to your side is an uphill task especially when or where they have made it clear enough that you are not a 'favorite'. How do you overcome the resentment or hostility towards you bearing in mind that you are in love with your partner, mate, lover or spouse?

Inter-Cultural Relationship Tips- Searching for Love and Acceptance in an Intercultural Relationship

Inter-Cultural Relationship Tips- Searching for Love and Acceptance in an Intercultural Relationship

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Pause a while at this point to ask or ponder on the title of this article or blog post today- Searching for Love and Acceptance in an Intercultural Relationship.


The first thing that comes to mind and that arrests the heart is in the fact that LOVE and ACCEPTANCE are two (2) basic ingredients to nurturing and fostering a friendship between two opposite sexes to start with.


As lovers, you progress from the point of having heard about, seen, met or encountered your supposed spouse to making plans and taking steps to build a strong and virile relationship together.


You cannot achieve this feat without LOVE and ACCEPTANCE flowing between the two of you. This is the bedrock upon which your relationship and association rests.


After all, it is evident that you are not the only damsel in distress waiting for a knight in shinning armor to rescue and claim as his own prized possession and jewel.


In the same light, you are neither the most eligible and handsome and suitable bachelor with strong biceps waiting to show off your prowess to the admiration  of all the ladies around the block.


In spite of your weaknesses, faults, limitations, biases, put offs and let downs, mood swings, etc either of you still liked one another enough to agree to seeing one another regularly, constantly and frequently as lovers.


This is not all, you agreed to love and cherish one another, to remain faithful and true no matter the circumstance and to always seek after each other's best in all situations.


DO NOT WORRY- you never made it as an oath if you are not yet joined together in holy matrimony. And where you are formally and officially and legally joined together as husband and wife already, nothing less than this suffices.


It is therefore an unacceptable fact that is subject to question to discover that your partner, lover, boyfriend or girlfriend or worse still- your Spouse is out searching for and seeking Love and Acceptance in your Marriage or Relationship.


Friend, you just have to agreeably come to terms with and in addition get to realize that 'whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing WELL'. You cannot afford not to give your relationship, love affair or Marriage the best shot it deserves or requires.


At least, not by today's standards where breakups, separations, divorces and single parenting is fast becoming the order of the day. This trend cannot be allowed to continue unchecked.


How do you intend to challenge this threat and risk to all happy ever after relationships today? It is most certain that without love and acceptance freely and lavishly shared and enjoyed, you have simply condemned your relationship to an equal fate- collapse and extinction.


As a concerned lover or spouse, you need to rise up to the challenge and get love and acceptance restored back in your relationship, affair and/or marriage without fail.


Where you are already tired and at your wits end in that relationship and are desperately looking for a way out, can you be bold and courageous and manly/womanly enough to break the news to your date, lover, partner, mate or... (never to your spouse please- it is till death us do part ways and all).


Do you still feel there is some love left to be salvaged in your relationship, maybe it is not a bad idea to consider approaching a guidance and counselling expert who majors in relationships turned sour for a start.


It does well at times to speak out as a hurting lover or spouse. It helps.


Do not keep mute and expect your lover, boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse for that matter to suddenly turn leprechaun or gypsy or Houdini  and be able to predict as if by magic the way things stand at present within your relationship and between both of you.


You need to realize that times are hard and challenging and it is not impossible to suffer a disconnect with your environment. States of ineptitude can be brought about by pressures, hassles, economic and financial hard times, disappointments, grief or loss, etc.


During moments such as these, your relationship may equally be affected. Rather than make matters worse, you should be understanding, flexible, accommodating, tolerant and best of all to be prayerful.


Approach your lover or spouse and in a manner which you know he/she would be more receptive to whatever you have to say or suggest. A problem shared with an appropriate individual is a great relief to any burden that weighs heavily on your heart and that troubles your mind.


Do not allow anything you are experiencing, feeling or even imagining no matter how remote to becloud the need to stay connected with one another in your relationship. You need to be in sync with one another to fully enjoy what being in an intercultural relationship is all about.


Where all else fails, maybe it is not bad to suggest that you should begin to readjust your thinking to starting a new life without your present boyfriend or girlfriend, date or lover. Married couples are an exemption to this advice or suggestion please.


The bond that binds you together is too strong for anything to rip you apart. As such, both of you must confront this monster that is set on destroying all you have ever labored to build together over the years.


Love conquers all. But where that same love is in short supply or rather that it is no longer in existence because it is no longer visible, felt, shared, experienced and/or enjoyed, what are you to do?


Look within, search around, go down memory lane, retrace your steps and maybe somewhere somehow light will shine to reveal where things began to fall out of place. No matter how insignificant this might prove to be, start small and learn to win back love and acceptance without being forceful, aggressive or timid about this.

BEFORE WE PART WAYS FOR NOW...

There are no two ways about this, a loving relationship between two individuals who love one another must be characterized by love and acceptance every step of the way.


The world has seen enough of fall outs, breakups, separations and divorces and lovers/spouses are advised to do the needful to resolve their differences in such a way and manner that will bring about the restoration of love, acceptance, effective communication, cooperation and all the ingredients that make relationships succeed today.


Cross culture relationships demand a greater attention from both lovebirds to securely guide it and to safely nurture it to the point where all that is evident is love, peace, harmony, progress, success and a fulfillment of every expectation in the hearts of both lovers.


Do not pass this off with the wave of the hand and equally treat it as 'persona non grata' -a matter that is of no concern to you. Learn to cultivate love and allow its sweet fragrance to spread all around. Help your lover, boyfriend, girlfriend, partner or spouse to overcome this challenge over acceptance today.


The future is too lengthy and lonesome to venture into without your trusted friend by your side.

With Inter-cultural relationship tips, your love relationship can get to be what both of you as lovers, partners, mates and couples have always dreamed, desired or expected it to be... and it is expected that you will actively play your part and fulfill your role within your relationship.

...Beginning from this moment, you can discover all you require and even more to transforming your intercultural relationship.

This way, both of you can get to discover, experience and enjoy the best your love affair, romance and marriage can produce/become while you go on to achieve your joint expectations and life ambitions without fail.

Inter-cultural marriages and/or relationships should be encouraged more and more BUT you might be surprised to discover that all is not 'a bed of roses' after all...

One, you must be quick to realize that there are hurdles to scale with your heartthrob, and more especially with the siblings, parents, friends and family members, etc... if any

Two, where you plan to live within the community where your lover or spouse is 'at home', you need to 'get the hang' of a few basic and important facts;

...at least, before you can finally (or gradually) settle down to enjoy your new found love together and start a new life with your lover, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, partner or special someone.

Being in love especially with someone of a different culture is good but what you don't probably know may in later life be areas of challenges...

Now... is the time for you to prove your love and the level of commitment you are prepared to invest in your relationship.

Also, it will do you no good to fall out of love and out of sync/touch with your mate/partner simply because there were things you never knew or thought was crucial to making your relationship work.

Thank God, help and support is available here at inter-culturalrelationshiptips.blogspot.com.

This way, you can reevaluate your proposition to become involved in an inter-cultural relationship (whether this is temporary or long term in nature and scope).

Please, don't be like so many others who started looking for who is guilty or who is directly or indirectly responsible for making their relationship get problems whereas, all that was needed was to have done the needful... and which is to-

Understand what you are stepping in to before it becomes difficult and heart rending to part ways with that guy or lady, man or woman who is at present -the love of your life and the only one for you.