Intercultural Relationship Tips & Help- A Sneak Peek View Into Reasons Your In-Laws May Not Accept You

Intercultural Relationship Tips & Help- A Sneak Peek View Into Reasons Your In-Laws May Not Like or Accept You

Friend, is it true that those who are ‘supposed’ to be your in-laws (at present or in the future) do not like your face, accept you or even desire to have anything whatsoever do you with the likes of you? Well, do not despair by losing hope or giving up in defeat; something can still be done nonetheless.

In this article, we shall take time to consider a few reasons or excuses why there is so much hostility or biases against the fact that you are in love with their son/daughter brother/sister.

To get started right away, can you categorically state any bias your 'future or present in-laws’ may have against your people, race, culture or language?

Or is it anything that concerns just you in particular?

It might not be quite obvious that whatever you may have perceived as resentment or disapproval of your connection with your lover at present (whether it is from his/her family members, relatives, ‘good’ neighbors, etc) may be closely related to your background.

You need to be aware that people in general no matter how remote it might appear oftentimes relate to or react towards any past event, happenings or encounters had with your kind/type of people.

Here are some suggestions to consider:

1. Can you remember any sad experience, bad treatment or ugly encounter that happened and someone from your background featured prominently?

2. Could the hostility against you be as a result of lack of trust especially when it has to do with unpleasant historical stories shared or handed down from one generation to the other about your race, people, culture or language?

3. Do you realize that oftentimes the fear from any perceived limitation or inability to effectively communicate and equally relate with you might be responsible considering the fact that you are from a different culture.

4. Lies, fables and myths as to whether you would make a better husband/lover or a respectful and well behaved wife/spouse at times may make for the perceived rejection.

5. Statistics of crime records, participation in neighborhood gangs, terrorism, divorces, broken marriages, failed relationships, etc known to involve your people may strongly contribute to your ‘in-laws’ not accepting you in their midst.

6. Literacy level, personal cleanliness and hygiene, gender tolerance and social disposition and political inclinations at times also serve as criteria for acceptance.

7. Known norms and values, ideologies and practices, religion, beliefs and lifestyles, etc about your people or culture equally count in things such as maintaining a relationship with your lover (boyfriend or girlfriend).

There are others more but these have been mentioned to give you the impetus that you still need to work.

You will do well (where this is allowable) to find out (preferably from your boyfriend or girlfriend) reasons or excuses put forward by his/her people for not appreciating the fact that both of you are involved in a relationship together.