Intercultural Relationship Help- How to Overcome Resentment or Hostility Towards You by Your In-laws?

Where there is no doubt whatsoever that you are not on the list of persons your In-laws like for a son-in-law or a daughter-in-law, you truly have work on your hands; you need to seek ways and deploy means to overcome the resentment or hostility displayed towards you.

Another option that you be left with might be to continue your love relationship without their approval, involvement, blessing or participation or worse still to end your relationship in breakup, separation or divorce.

That indeed is a tough one if you ask me?

The above mentioned option of calling it quits with your lover and going your separate ways is a last resort especially where you have been known to try or attempt peace-truce with your family-in-laws but failed.

You must realize that just about anything might be responsible for your supposed 'in-laws' not liking you.

Now, it doesn't count in your opinion whether they should be affectionately disposed towards you or not, what truly matters most is how best you can dispel any cloud of doubts surrounding your loving relationship with their son or daughter.

This is where the bone of contention lies.

In order to safely and securely proceed with your love affair together, you need to get past any strong bias or flimsy excuse against your in-laws and especially the ones you subtly cozy up with in your defense.

It serves to do you (your love life and your relationship) little good to join in the hate and resentment that is at present what appears to be in vogue- everything around you and all that you have labored for becomes stained in the process.

No matter what you choose to do or decide not to do, do not fall into the same trap and become entangled in this vice called hate.

You must make a difference.

You need to realize quickly that something somewhere is serving as a clog in the wheel of progress as far as your relationship is concerned at present. This very thing (the wrong mindset, perceived threat, baseless arguments, incorrect accusations, etc) must be addressed and equally resolved wherever possible.

You might be tempted to grow angry, get bitter or lash back at this 'injustice' but friend, the appropriate step to take would be to take your time to evaluate the biases (excuses or reasons) put forward against you and the relationship you keep with your lover, mate, partner, heartthrob, etc.

1. Do you have answers?

2. Can you find a way or device a means to effect a change in orientation or perception towards you?

3. Would a 'slight' change in lifestyle, behavior, conduct, speech, dressing, personality, etiquettes, ideology, belief or response help at all?

4. Do you presuppose that being a better, reliable, dependable, trustworthy, credit worthy, polite, outspoken, caring and loving person would prove sufficient in effecting a change in attitude towards you?

This is a crucial aspect to your love life and the loving and affectionate relationship both of you keep. Your relationship truly deserves/requires an environment where both of you can freely partner together to build it and make it work.

Distractions and all whatnots can only serve to slow the pace or even truncate the entire relationship building process where adequate care is not taken. Can you live with the realization that you did not put up ‘a fight’ to safeguard your loving relationship?

Would you rather lose your heartthrob?

It is a given that both of you need an environment where your love can bloom and where you can get to plan and work towards achieving your joint expectations and mutual goals for starting your relationship and becoming involved with one another.

Go ahead and do the needful; learn to overcome the challenges posed against your relationship and indeed take the necessary action without any further delay because you stand to reap the gains and enjoy the benefits.

It is tough enough to get along fine with your In-laws where both of you are of the same background, culture, race or ethnicity; it is a different ball game where both of you are involved in a Cross Cultural relationship. Coupled with this challenge, winning over your In-laws to your side is an uphill task especially when or where they have made it clear enough that you are not a 'favorite'. How do you overcome the resentment or hostility towards you bearing in mind that you are in love with your partner, mate, lover or spouse?